Anger--March 1st Meeting Recap

First off, I apologize for the delay in this post.  I had to miss the meeting due to my son being sick, so I was a little (ok, a lot...) slow about getting the information updated here.  Many thanks to Joni Biebighauser for taking pictures for me and Denise Carr for writing up a summary of Ann VandeZande's talk for us!

Before we launch into the main topic, I want to make sure to fulfill a promise.  In the rush to finish up the meeting after Trivia Day, I missed getting a picture of the amazing trophy created by Brenda Boone for the winners of our trivia competition.  Here she is in all her nerdy glory:

If you would like to visit her in person, check out the Strong table at the next meeting.  She will live there until the end of this year.  Next year on our 3rd Annual Trivia Day, another lucky table will get to enjoy her presence.  Until then, keep practicing those Trivia skills! ;)

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Anger: Beyond Management       a summary by guest blogger, Denise Carr

Ann Vande Zande spoke to us about anger at the last meeting. She did a wonderful job talking about a very hard topic. I will try my best to summarize her talk from my notes.

 The first thing she talked about was that we often experience unnoticed shifts or stressors in our life when we have children, which could be lack of time, sleep, freedom, relationships, good conversations etc. Our unmet expectations can dominate us. Psychology says we can have phantom pain or phantom self, which is everything we see on Pinterest, Facebook, etc.-- basically ideas we have of ourselves not living up to what everyone else is doing with their lives. I.e.: wonderful decorated and clean house, perfect birthday parties and great all natural made from scratch meals your children happily eat (maybe that’s just mine). She told us about a breathing technique: breathe 4 seconds in, hold for 7 seconds, 8 seconds out. 

 

Ann told us that the biggest detriment to discipline is being angry. The best way to help your kids is to learn to be okay when our kids are upset or struggling. Your child's struggle is not about you. We cannot stuff down our anger; it is physically harmful to just stuff it inside. The movie Inside Out is a great movie that talks about anger. We can use our words to be a curse or blessing. Forecast good stuff, not negative, about ourselves and others. Our words carry power. When we are angry or our kids are angry, it’s okay to change locations, move rooms, tell your child “I need to calm down before we talk.” 

When dealing with your child who is angry or upset,
1.) Tell them you understand, and validate their feelings
2.) Discipline if needed.
3.) Forecast the positive
4.) Let them feel their own emotions.

Take ownership of our anger.

God showed us unmistakable mercy and unshakable love when he suffered our sins upon the cross.

In the story of the bleeding woman, God called her out and made known who had touched him. He called her out of her sin and let it be known that she was healed.

Isaiah 53:5 But he was wounded for our transgression, he was bruised for our iniquities; the chastisement of our peace was upon; him and with his stripes we are healed.
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Our "Silver Spoon Award" winner for the week is Anna Perkinson!  Anna is another repeat winner! Here is the recipe for her winning dish:

The scone recipe is from taste of home:
http://www.tasteofhome.com/recipes/cinnamon-chip-scones
 

My changes:

extra 1/4 cup of buttermilk

Omit the butter/sugar on top (though good this way too) and instead top with cream cheese glaze when they come out of the oven.

Here is my glaze recipe (good on many things!):

4 oz softened cream cheese

1 Tbsp butter (softened)

2 cups confectioners sugar

1/2 tsp. vanilla extract

2-3 Tbsp milk